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Parenting: Can One Master It?

Parenting is not an easy task. An onlooker may be quick to judge and point fingers at a child and blame the parents for their behaviors. What people fail to notice is that there are many layers to training a child and building them into responsible individuals. 

It becomes a point of concern, especially for young parents to know if they are doing it right or wrong. Every parent is a parent for the first time, and they can never be sure of their actions, such as times when their kids use a walker for carpet or how they react to eating vegetables, et cetera. Even parents of multiple children cannot testify to being experts in the field because every child is different, and the same formula does not work. So, in the end, what works?

How can one be a good parent?

Since humans are not perfect, the parent should not set unreachable expectations on themselves or on the kid. You are not going to be right the whole time and it is alright to make a few blunders, but every decision you take must be taken considering the best for your child. Not putting too much pressure on them is a good option because it may become burdensome to them but one should refrain from being too cut off from their lives as they may feel a lack of love and care. One should be involved, and the child should feel trusted. This builds good self-esteem.

As a young kid, they are always around you and if you are unable to walk the steps of the advice you preach; they will most likely not take up the lessons. One must be a good role model that will enable them to follow your footsteps. This is an important step to parenting.

The child may become rebellious if they see you living a life that goes against the principle you preach. They may find themselves going along paths that you did not wish to pave. Being an imperfect human may limit one from being the best, but one should try their best since young children only observe and do not understand yet. As they grow older, they will learn to appreciate the effort.

Show them, love.

Express your love for them. Children are fragile people, so one needs to let them know that they are loved individuals. The parent should give them assurance about their self-worth. Children that are not loved properly usually grow into adults that search for love in all the wrong places. The parent should be able to show them that they are deserving of profound love and they do not deserve any less.

It takes time and effort to master the art of parenting. It requires hard work but even then, one cannot be sure about the results. What matters most is that one should understand your child. One can only enforce the right rules and boundaries when one knows the little human that they are dealing with.

Take time to do this, guide them in their ways, and watch from the sideline as they grow, then you have done enough, and you have done well.

Traditional Outdoor Games For Children

It is less and less common to see children playing in squares, playgrounds or in the yard with friends. This change in their play habits is mainly due to the fact that new technologies capture their attention and many prefer video games to going out for a run.

It is true that video games can be educational and that they contribute to the development of some cognitive functions, but we cannot forget that children also need to run, jump, and interact with their peers outdoors. For this reason, traditional games should not go out of style.

In fact, traditional games are a very healthy pastime in which children can combine entertainment with fun and develop physical skills such as balance, strength, agility and motor coordination. In addition, these games also allow the child to socialize, develop conflict resolution skills and improve their language.

Hopscotch

If your child has already turned 4 years old, he will be ready to learn to play hopscotch. It is a very entertaining hobby that only requires an open space, a chalk and an object that can be thrown to the ground, such as a stone or a sheet. It is necessary to draw a diagram of 10 squares on the ground, there are different ways to position the squares but make sure to number each one, from 1 to 10.

Blind chicken

Blind chicken is one of the oldest games and bears a lot of resemblance to the game of hide-and-seek and pillage. To play, you only need a minimum of 4 people and a garment that serves to cover the eyes of one of them, which can be a handkerchief, a scarf or a bandage.

Bag race

The sack race is a very simple and fun game that only requires a few sacks or bags. However, it is important that children play on safe ground, which does not have many slopes, since falls are practically inevitable, so it is recommended for children older than 7 years. Of course, the more children play the better, because the objective is to make a competition and whoever arrives faster wins.

Cops and robbers

It is one of the most popular popular games, in fact, you probably remember when you played it as a kid. The rules are very simple, two teams must be formed: a group of policemen and another of thieves. At the starting signal, the group of thieves must run to hide while the policemen wait a reasonable time before going out to look for them. The policemen must search for the robbers in their hiding places and if they find them, they win the game. If the thieves manage to escape their hiding places and manage to group together, they win the game.

The statues

All the children who wish can participate in this game. One player stands in front of the rest, at a distance of approximately five meters, and turns his back to them. The rest of the players must advance towards him, making as little noise as possible . Whoever is in front can turn to the group at any time and the others must go into “statue” mode, in the position they have remained. If the player in front “catches” someone moving, he will say his name and have to return to the starting point. Whoever first manages to reach the back of the player who is positioned in front of the group wins.

Back To School And Routine After The Christmas Holidays: Five Tips

Christmas is over and it’s time to go back to school. Without a doubt, it is a complicated stage that, if not managed properly, can lead to adaptation problems in children or even a school phobia itself. In fact, some children are sad, listless, irritable or even report neurovegetative symptoms, such as headaches or stomachaches.

It is perfectly understandable that after having lived a few days of school break where they were allowed to go to bed later, eat late and spend the whole day playing, going back to school is difficult since it implies returning to a routine with stricter rules, many of which are not funny. How to face this transition in the least traumatic way possible?

Adapt the routine before returning to school

Ideally, each time the child goes on vacation, you adapt the routine the days before going back to school. In this way the change will be less abrupt and the transition will be much smoother. It’s not about waking him up as early as if he had to go to school, but don’t let him sleep late because the goal is that the first day of school he doesn’t linger too long. In the same way, it is convenient that you dedicate at least half an hour to review the school contents, although it is not a matter of assigning tasks but of looking for fun activities that allow to refresh some of the subjects.

Keep the fun going for a few days after entering school

Asking your child to drastically change his routine is like asking the elm for pears. Instead, try to keep some activities fun even after school has started. For example, you can continue taking him to the playground, schedule a movie out or prepare a special dinner at home. It’s about maintaining that Christmas spirit for a few more days, until the child is completely used to his new routine.

Set a positive example

Children learn a lot by imitation, constantly scanning your attitudes, taking notes and then reproducing them. That means that if you complain because you have to go back to work, the child will also complain because he has to go back to school. 

Create positive partnerships with the school

Children often resist going back to school because they remember only negative events. For example, they remember that they have to get up very early or that they have to do their homework when they return home, instead of playing with the toys that the Magi have brought them. In that case, it is the parents’ mission to highlight the positive aspects of the school, such as the fact that they will be able to see their friends again and play with them, that they will be able to resume sports training or that they will learn new things about their favorite subject.

Help you focus

Perhaps the child was already capable of doing homework alone but it is convenient that after a break period, you help him to focus. You can sit next to him and help him with his homework or review it after he’s finished. You may also need to remind them, but do so without adding too much pressure. For example, you can tell him that you allow him to play another 10 minutes but then he will have to sit down to do his homework.